What if You DON’T Believe in Celebrating Halloween?

As a Christian Mom, Halloween has always been the hardest day for me to figure out.

Fresh out of seminary, I was full of facts and HUNDREDS of reasons to ignore the day, so in my first years of mothering, that’s what we did. I just acted like nothing was going on. Of course as the kids grew older, that plan went out the window. As early as pre-school, they knew something was up. And that something called Halloween seemed fun, even if it had a little scary attached to it.

For several years, we chose the alternative to Halloween option among Christians, the ever popular Fall Festival, also known as the Trunk or Treat, Harvest Carnival, and so on. At least with a Fall Festival, the kids could dress up in a not-scary costume, and there was candy to be had and games to play, so for many years they were satisfied with whatever the church was doing that night.

But one day they realized that most of their friends didn’t go to Fall Festival at Halloween. Their friends stayed home in their neighbourhoods and went trick-or-treating door-to-door at dusk in costumes. And my kids thought that sounded way cooler, except their mom was stuck. Costumes. Trick-or-treating. Door-to-door. It felt like an outright celebration of Halloween to me. For years I had told the kids, “We are not going to celebrate evil.” And my head just couldn’t get there.

It finally hit me. My kids do not want to celebrate evil. Not one of them likes to be afraid or even watch scary movies. They don’t want to exalt darkness or cast spells or buy into the hype about wickedness. They just want to have good, clean fun on Halloween. So what was a mama to do? Hallelujah, that’s what.

Somehow I decided that the whole world might spend a day focused on darkness, but we certainly didn’t have to. So our house went alternative. The first year I came up with this party I called “Hallelujah on the Driveway.”

"I decided that our house was going to be a light in the dark on Halloween."
“I decided that our house was going to be a light in the dark on Halloween.”

A couple of days before Hallelujah, I sent email invitations to all the neighbours and some friends from church. I told the kids they could invite anybody they wanted to. My friend Lisa and I spent one afternoon stringing up every line of white Christmas lights I had outside across the driveway. My dad brought a couple of fire pits over. We had white candles in lanterns everywhere and as many happy pumpkins as we could carve….

I made about five pots of taco soup and asked everybody to bring an appetizer or dessert to put on the table… That first year, about 80 people showed up. No one had to do anything but enjoy one another, visit, and laugh. The kids went to trick-or-treat in big groups, stopping back by the house for another snack every so often. It was one of my all-time best ideas ever, and our little house was truly a light in the dark that night. We had a blast!

  • Angela Thomas from her book 52 things Kids Need from a Mom

52 Things Kids Need From A Mom